| "Collective
Voices around Partnering and Parenting"
1-2 November 2002
Domesticating
masculinity and masculinizing domesticity in contemporary U.S. fatherhood
politics
Anna
Gavanas
(Stockholm University / SUNY Stony Brook)
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do not quote without permission
Since
the mid-1990s, the self-proclaimed "Fatherhood Responsibility Movement"
has managed to establish fatherhood at the center of U.S. national
politics. This movement claims that fathers have become marginalized
in "the family," with catastrophic societal consequences. Increasing
rates of female-headed households as well as shifting conditions
for work, family formation and care have allegedly contributed to
the redefinition of "the family" into "mother and child." According
to the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, fathers are thus marginalized
and "the family" has become "feminized." In response to this perceived
situation, the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement seeks to reestablish
the necessity of men in families, constituting fatherhood as specifically
male in differentiation from the feminizing connotations
of family involvement. However, by "masculinizing" fatherhood, proponents
of "responsible fatherhood" engage a century long dilemma
that is at the heart of constructing particularly male versions
of parenthood: how do you masculinize domesticity and at the
same time domesticate masculinity? The Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement deals with this dilemma by converging on three longstanding
and overlapping arenas for masculinization: heterosexuality, sport
and religion. Simultaneously, these arenas are longstanding sites
for competition and contestation between asymmetrically positioned
constituencies of men. This paper aims to discuss the ways that
the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement's masculinization strategies,
while allowing constituencies to meet on common ground, also threaten
to confuse and divide the movement.
The
Fatherhood Responsibility Movement: reinvigorating "masculine" domesticity
The
Fatherhood Responsibility Movement constitutes a network of organizations
in strategic alliance. The representatives in these organizations
assume competing approaches to issues of racial, socio-economic
and gendered relations while converging on mainstream political
"family values," like "child well-being" and the importance of fathers
and family to social order (Gavanas 2002, 2003). Throughout the
1990s, the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement has developed a number
of bi-partisan federal initiatives under the banners of "family"
and "child well-being," seemingly answering the calls
of liberal feminists in terms of promoting shared parenting responsibilities.
The politically centrist family rhetoric of the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement has proved extremely successful and resulted in a number
of federal initiatives on fatherhood. For instance, the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement is a principal force behind Vice President
Al Gore's "Father to Father Initiative" launched in 1994,
as well as a number of federal task forces on fatherhood since 1997,
the "Fathers Count Act of 1999" (H.R. 3073) and the "Responsible
Fatherhood Act of 2000 (H.R. 4671)." Promoting marriage as
a national goal is central to both these acts. However, beneath
the unified image presented in public manifestations, marriage is
the most divisive issue within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement.
Within
fatherhood politics, competing constituencies of men are positioned
asymmetrically towards the marital institution, the State and the
labor market. I have clustered the perspectives within the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement into two wings (see Gavanas 2002). The fragile
families wing mainly represents low-income, poor and minority
men. The term "fragile families" was coined by Ronald
Mincy at the Ford Foundation's Strengthening Fragile Family Initiative,
and defined as "a family formed by out-of-wedlock birth(s)
to disadvantaged parents" (Mincy and Pouncy 1999:83). While
fragile families organizations seek to increase men's "marriageability"
through equal breadwinning opportunities, they do not attribute
primary importance to marriage rates per se. In contrast, the pro-marriage
wing promotes marriage as key to fatherhood responsibility
for all types of men, and marriage proponents neither position themselves,
nor primarily distinguish between men, in terms of race/ ethnicity
or socio-economic class.
Whereas
pro-marriage organizations focus on reinforcing notions of gender
difference in parenting, cemented in the institution of marriage,
fragile families organizations assume relatively more flexible approaches
to gender relations and instead focus on structural relations between
men. Fragile families organizations particularly focus on poor
and minority men's, as opposed to white and middle-class men's,
opportunities in education and the labor market. Just like marriage
is a key issue for the pro marriage wing, work is a key issue
within the fragile families wing of the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement. The fragile families wing consists of national groups
like the "National Center for Strategic Nonprofit Planning
and Community Leadership," "Partners for Fragile Families"
and the "National Practitioners Network on Fathers and Families."
There are also hundreds of local fragile families oriented organizations
such as the "Baltimore City Healthy Start Men's Services" and "Virginia
Beach Fathers in Training." Within the pro-marriage wing, the "National
Fatherhood Initiative" is the most significant national organization
along with the "National Center for Fathering" and the
"Institute for Responsible Fatherhood and Family Revitalization."
These groups are assisting hundreds of local fatherhood organizations
and initiatives as well as City- and State based fatherhood campaigns.
Both
fragile families and pro-marriage organizations seek recognition
for the indispensability of fathers to families as men, although
the fragile families wing does not primarily focus on gender
difference. As mentioned earlier, according to leading representatives
of the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, parenting has been feminized
by becoming synonymous with motherhood (Blankenhorn 1995:13, Gore
1996). Promoting responsible fatherhood through constituting "masculine"
versions of parenthood leads the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement
to a dilemma. On the one hand, fatherhood must domesticate masculinity,
which is perceived as innately aggressive and "promiscuous" according
to socio-biological, pop-psychological and/or Biblical ideas (Blankenhorn
1995:225). But on the other hand, fatherhood needs to be masculinized
through, for instance, sport, religion or other "manly"
activity and discourse in order to not appear domesticated, i.e.
"feminized" or "sissified." These dilemmas between
masculinization and domestication in contemporary fatherhood politics
can be traced back to the 19th century.
Domesticity
has not always been considered feminine and "domestic masculinity"
has not always been perceived as problematic in U.S. family politics
(La Rossa 1997). Prior to the 19th century, family involvement
was not necessarily considered contrary to white and middle-class
notions of "maleness" - quite the opposite. In the 17th
and 18th centuries, fathers were thought to have important
childrearing tasks, being primary custodians of children, mainly
responsible for their instruction and moral guidance (LaRossa 1997:24,
Gillis 1996: 186, Griswold 1993). According to historian John Gillis
(1996), 17th and 18th century fatherhood was
not only physically close, but full-time. Furthermore, pre-19th
century Protestant treatises significantly defined fatherhood as
work (1996:186).
Not
until the emergence of marketplace economy in the 19th
century did domesticity and family involvement become primarily
associated with femininity. Fathering increasingly revolved around
workplace schedules as opposed to pre-industrial home-based economic
conditions, where fathering was part of everyday work (Frank 1998:12,
Griswold 1993:2). In the 1800s, fathers' responsibilities thus became
mainly defined by breadwinning in the marketplace, whereas mothers
became increasingly central to family life, and subsequently viewed
as the primary custodians and caretakers of children (Griswold 1993:30,
Gillis 1996:190, LaRossa 1997:28, Frank 1998:15, Rotundo 1993).
These shifts in the gendered division of labor are inextricably
linked to 19th century racial and socio-economic conditions.
The emergence of the "family man" as white middle-class
standard, defined by breadwinning and recreation, needs to be contrasted
with the conditions of working-class families in the 19th
century, who continued to see themselves as work units (Frank 1998:4).
The low salaries of working-class men were combined with the incomes
of their wives and children, and long working hours were not conducive
for these fathers to spend leisure time with their families (Griswold
1993:42). Moreover, the conditions for 19th century African
American fathers and families were even more vastly different from
those of the white middle-class (Frank 1998:5). The legacy of slavery,
segregation, racism and discrimination has profoundly impacted the
conditions for African American fathers to make decisions about
family formation and parenting (Billingsley 1992, Staples &
Johnson 1993).
The
contemporary Fatherhood Responsibility Movement's contradictions
in promoting involved fatherhood build upon the opposing tendencies
of 19th century white and middle-class fatherhood discourse
(Frank 1998). On the one hand, fathers withdrew from their homes
into the marketplace, and on the other hand, fathers were increasingly
encouraged by "experts" and reformers to get more involved
with their children (Frank 1998:115, Griswold 1993:120). Since mothers
had come to symbolize the home, male domesticity became problematic:
"too intimate a relationship with one's children had become
unmanly, likely to call into question not only a fellow's masculinity
but also his maturity" (Gillis 1996:193). Carving out specifically
"male" modes of domesticity, such as after work "fun
dads," allowed early 20th century fathers to be
involved in their families while still maintaining their ground
as "real men." 1920s notions of fathers as "play-mates"
and "frolicsome fatherhood" thus simultaneously signified men's
reduced responsibility for children's everyday socialization and
their increasing family involvement (LaRossa 1997).
Throughout
the 20th century, there have been waves of attention
to fatherhood in U.S. family politics. In recurring campaigns by
family "experts" and reformers, the maleness of fathers' family
involvement has been carved out in terms of breadwinning, discipline,
play, "role modeling" and "protection" as particularly
male parenting characteristics, in complementary relation to notions
of motherhood and femininity (Weiss 2000). In the 1990s, the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement reinvigorated the century-old dilemmas of
male domesticity. For instance, Harry, a leading pro-marriage representative
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, argued in an interview
that men should be appreciated and recognized for just being men,
without having to change or feel ashamed about their "manly
ways." In the interview, Harry ridicules "Mr Moms"
just like involved fatherhood was ridiculed as "maternal fatherhood"
in the early 1900s (LaRossa 1997:86-87):
Up
'til now, a lot of parenting education programs take what mothers
do naturally and say to men; 'You want to be a good parent? Do like
what mothers do!' And rather than say 'Gee,' you know, 'what guys
do as fathers is maybe different from what mothers tend to do as
mothers, but doesn't mean it's worse. It doesn't mean that
one is doing it right, and the other is doing it wrong.' You've
heard of the movie 'Mr. Mom [depicting a stay-at-home father]' and
you've heard people refer to stay at home fathers as Mr. Moms. That's
pretty insulting! I mean, why don't we call mothers that stay at
home with their kids Mrs. Dads? Never! The fact of the matter is;
men are men, women are women, fathers and mothers are doing things
somewhat differently. Not that the one is doing it right
and the other is doing it wrong, and what we ought to do is honor,
respect and support the unique contributions of fathers and mothers.
[Quote from recorded interview with Harry, a leading representative
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement]
In
the statement above, Harry exemplifies the efforts within the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement, and especially within the pro-marriage
wing, to re-gender parenting into male and female features. Thereby,
proponents of responsible fatherhood differentiate masculine
domesticity from the "insultingly" feminizing epithet
of "Mr. Mom." Just like proponents of "frolicsome
fatherhood" and male "role modeling" earlier in the
century, organizations within the contemporary Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement insist on the irreplaceability of male contributions
to child rearing. Without such presumptions, there would be no need
for a movement that mobilizes around the importance of fathers as
parents. In Harry's view, gendering parenthood allows men to participate
in child rearing as men without having to "check their
trousers at the door:"
A lot
of people say; there's nothing wrong with a guy being a father as
long as he does it the way mothers do it. And I think that's not
a very... I think inspirational message to men, I think what you
have to do is say, 'Hey, you can be a real guy, a man's man, and
still be a great father.' Being a real man doesn't mean beating
your kid, or beating your wife, but you know, it doesn't mean you
have to sort of check your trousers at the door. Ehhh... you know,
you can be physical with your kid, in terms physical play wrestling
with them on the floor. And that's a real contribution -- not superfluous.
You can encourage risk taking within reason, and that's good, healthy
and reasonable for children. And then what kids really need in the
end is both what mothers and fathers bring, not just mothers or
fathers. [Quote from recorded interview with Harry, a leading
representative within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement]
Whereas
notions of gendered and familial relations are under contestation
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, Harry's statement
above exemplifies the connections that especially pro-marriage representatives
tend to draw between specific notions of male characteristics (such
as "being physical") and "indispensable" father
contributions (such as wrestling with their kids on the floor).
Drawing upon early 19th century notions of fathers as
"play-mates" (LaRossa 1997), especially pro-marriage representatives
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement constantly mention
so called "rough-and-tumble play" as an important example
of why fathers are irreplaceable, and particularly to sons, who
learn to control their "aggression" by wrestling with
their fathers (Gavanas 2001, 2003).
Heterosexuality,
Sport and Religion as masculinizing tools in fatherhood politics
Many
researchers have traced contemporary masculinity politics to a long
tradition of white and middle-class men's movements characterized
by "fears of feminization" in response to feminist politics
(Donovan 1998, Kirkley 1996, Kimmel 1996, Messner 1997, Muesse 1996).
In these contexts, athletic organizations, religious/ spiritual
societies and other exclusively male organizations serve as 'compensatory'
institutions where heterosexual masculinity can be fostered despite
the "feminization" of parenting, education, church and
parts of public life (Messner 1997). At the end of the 19th
century, in response to the profound political, social and economic
transformations that took place at the time, "masculine"
arenas for male bonding provided tools for men to grapple with their
shifting positions in families. The end of the 19th and
beginning of the 20th century was the golden age of (white)
Protestant evangelical men's movements as well as a range of male-exclusive
athletic and homosocial organizations, such as the Boy Scouts, YMCA
and fraternal orders (Bederman 1995, Kimmel 1996). Sociologist Alan
Petersen locates a "vogue for physical culture" as part
of the increasing popularity of Darwinism at the second half of
the 19th century where "the valorisation of qualities
such as competition, physical strength, and physical aggression
- inversions of 'feminised' Victorian society - can be explained
in part as a response to the growing penetration of the public sphere
by women" (1998:47). In these contexts we may identify the
ways in which sport, religion and heterosexuality are historically
interconnected in U.S. gender politics as arenas for masculine ideals.
For instance, the U.S. tradition of "sports evangelism"
merges sport and religious discourses into a common masculine endeavor
based on male bonding in differentiation from women and anything
else considered sissy-like, including gay men (Garber 1999:284).
Drawing upon such century-old traditions, fragile families and pro-marriage
oriented organizations converge on three overlapping terrains that
provide tools for masculinizing fatherhood; heterosexuality, sport
and religion.
Heterosexuality:
Although
expressing a variety of approaches to gender relations, representatives
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement generally seem to
believe in notions of a fundamental, more or less essential, gender
difference that manifests itself in sexuality and is more "basic"
than socially and culturally constructed gender relations. For example,
representatives commonly draw upon hydraulic metaphors comparing
male sexuality to "water dammed up," or "saving"
and "spending" energy. Conjuring up male sexuality as
a promiscuous and aggressive "force" that needs to be controlled,
such metaphors have been used in medical, legal and political contexts
since the 1800s in order to draw and re-draw boundaries of "natural"
sexuality (Petersen 1998, Weeks 1985). Hydraulic notions of masculinity
were constructed in differentiation from what was considered "feminine"
in the 1800s, such as sexual restraint and family orientation. The
Fatherhood Responsibility Movement occupies itself with the "problem"
of innately promiscuous male sexuality and draws upon century old
hydraulic notions. At the same time, the "problem" of
male promiscuity defines masculinity as polarized from femininity,
and is considered "natural" and good if practiced "responsibly,"
i.e. leading to an economically and morally viable heterosexual
family unit. While converging on the grounds of masculinity as defined
by heterosexuality, notions of male sexuality have different meanings
to various constituencies within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement.
For instance, racist stereotypes of African American men as "hyper-masculine"
sexual predators have been prevalent in U.S. public and political
discussion since slavery (Majors and Billson 1992, Duneier 1992,
Staples 1982). Subsequently, Fragile Families representatives tend
to frame the "male problem" in socio-historical and economic terms,
whereas the marriage proponents emphasize moral imperatives to control
men's sexual urges (Gavanas 2001, 2003).
In
response to a new set of social and economic shifts, the contemporary
Fatherhood Responsibility Movement reinvigorates century-old fears
that men will become replaceable by women in family, government
and labor market. Simultaneously, the very traits thought to represent
the uniqueness of men are perceived as problematic in fatherhood
organizations. Throughout the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement,
hydraulic notions of masculinity are considered as natural as they
are threatening as practitioners at fatherhood programs seek to
"channel" men's "lowlier" impulses into nobler activities like parenting,
marriage, athletic endeavors and moral leadership. During my fieldwork
in local and national fatherhood organizations, I often heard practitioners
address the participants in their fatherhood programs with expressions
like "You can't be like a dog in a meatpacking factory wanting
a bite out of everything," "You've got to think with the
big head, not the little one," and "Just having a penis
doesn't make you a man." Ronald Mincy, Senior Program Officer
of the Ford Foundation Strengthening Fragile Families Initiative,
discussed the "male problem" as follows at a fatherhood
conference attended by about a hundred practitioners:
Studies
from countries all over the world [show] that men have greater frequency
for sex than do women -- basic. All right? Men want sex more than
women. (...) Clear -- right? […] And it is all around this question
of: how are men going to manage their sexuality so
that, as they grow up, they can remain faithful to their partners
and to their children, and they can keep their wealth within their
household and not pissing away -- excuse me -- (laughter) (applause)
on child support and maintaining two households. This is a problem
that, by the way, is not peculiar to our community. That's it; it's
not a problem peculiar to the black community, it is a problem that
happens all around the world. […] And you remember Solomon
and David and Abraham, and what was the one thing, the one thing
that took these kings and tore them down? It was their failure to
manage their sexuality! (Applause) Look at Solomon, the king, the
wisest man on the earth, right? So how is it that we, in the African
American community, think that we're going to be able to breathe
health and healing in our communities if... Look at […] Bill Clinton
[…]. (Laughter and applause) [Quote from conference, emphases by
Ronald Mincy]
Mincy's
reference to men "pissing away" their resources is an
obvious hydraulic metaphor. He reinforces a hydraulic model of male
sexuality by using both biblical and contemporary examples to assert
that men have to "manage" their sexuality in order to
achieve financial stability as providers. For another example, Joe
Jones, director of a famous fatherhood program called Baltimore
City Healthy Start men's services evoked the hydraulic imagery of
"managing," "saving," and "spending"
male sexual energy at another conference. Jones maintained the importance
of teaching men to control their sexuality in terms of managing
a stock account, with a reward at the end. Jones's exhortation to
"manage" one's sexuality is an example of the way in which
especially fragile families oriented leaders within the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement make a connection between marketplace economy
and male sexuality, and conceive of men's sexuality as both natural,
risky and possibly rewarding. The trick is to make use of male sexuality
the "right" way as to maximize the financial and moral
outcomes. In this view, men's limited amount of sexual energy can
be invested in activities such as business, sport, copulation and
procreation (Messner 1992:95). Unsurprisingly, the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement casts married heterosexual monogamy as the optimal way
to successful masculinity and fatherhood. In this context, gay men
represent the ultimately destructive way of using "male energy"
since they are not properly attached to, and harnessed or civilized
by, women, marriage or heterosexual monogamy (Gavanas 2003).
At
first, when sitting around these all-male workshops, I was confused
by the ways these men both reconfirmed and reprimanded each
other for the exact same reason. However, I eventually discerned
a pattern: by acknowledging each other as "womanizers," men in fatherhood
programs reasserted their common heterosexuality and thereby their
common "manliness." This way, fathers could steer clear of being
seen as "effeminate" or "sissy-like" in a context they perceived
as feminine, i.e. the family. In other words, the maleness of fatherhood
is cast in opposite relation to women and gay men. Although representing
the diverging outlooks of white middle-class men as well as poor,
low-income and minority men, the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement
thus unites in one common will: "keeping their pants on" in the
family.
Sport:
In
conjunction with heterosexuality, sport provides an abundance of
masculinizing metaphors and practices that are frequently used in
fatherhood programs. "Manly" team sports serve as important
homosocial arenas within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement
to negotiate and contest masculinity in relation to the feminized
and "sissified" domain of parenting. For instance, by
transposing the cultivation of masculinity and male parenting into
sport arenas and framing fathering practices in terms of coaching
and team sport, fatherhood programs can differentiate between fatherhood
and motherhood, and simultaneously make fathering seem manly, heroic
and appealing. Programs challenge men to take fatherhood responsibilities
with expressions such as "step up to the [baseball] plate"
and "be a team player." At one fatherhood conference,
when discussing male mentoring, the speaker said that men, because
they are men, understand terms like "team work" and "fair
play." Practitioner Joe Jones, uses a football metaphor to
explain his "team parenting" model to fathers: "You
may be on a team with someone you don't like […] but that doesn't
make any difference, because you want to win the Super Bowl."
In another example, in a fatherhood video shown at a fatherhood
workshop, a practitioner told a father that "you can wrap the
diaper like a football." Importantly, sport has many different
meanings and uses within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement,
constituting a longstanding terrain for contestation over racial,
sexual and socio-economic boundaries of masculinities. For instance,
to African American men, athletic role models are an ambivalent
symbol for empowerment. The sport industry also represents dead-end
careers, highlighting the disproportional scarcity of non-athletic
opportunities for poor and low-income African American men within
the labor market (Majors 1990, Messner 1992).
Religion:
Like
sport, religious metaphors are frequently used in contemporary fatherhood
politics to separate male parenting from female parenting and thus
argue for the necessity of fathers to familial, social and moral
order. In fatherhood programs, biblical imagery is often used to
carve out a particularly male position in families. By casting men
as indispensable due to being naturally and divinely ordained "protectors"
and "leaders" of women and children, fatherhood programs
may masculinize fatherhood and simultaneously make domesticity attractive
to men. Especially Christianity serves as a common ground where
competing constituencies of men come together on common grounds
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement. However, the two
wings within the movement come out of diverging, and competing,
religious traditions. Whereas the pro-marriage wing draws upon turn-of-the
19th-century moral reform, the fragile families wing
extends into racial justice rhetoric within abolitionist and civil
rights struggles. Subsequently, even though pro-marriage and fragile
families organizations converge on the grounds of biblical rhetoric,
they do so given the different implications and meanings to different
constituencies.
Conclusion:
the dilemma of masculinization and the future of "responsible fatherhood"
In
my view, it seems that the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement risks
reinforcing some of the problems that they seek to solve. Firstly,
the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement's masculinizing strategies
may inhibit alternative constructions of parenting that don't correspond
to binary notions of gendered and sexual difference. Secondly, by
constructing fatherhood and masculinity out of a differentiation
from women and gay men, fatherhood programs may reinforce the urgency
for men to assert their heterosexuality. Here, the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement contradicts itself, simultaneously viewing male "womanizing"
and "promiscuity" as a problem in the first place. Thirdly, by partly
focusing on heterosexual monogamy and gender difference, the Fatherhood
Responsibility Movement ignores the existence and lessons of non-heteronormative
families that deal with issues of negotiating parental division
of labor in non-gendered ways. As opposed to reinforcing notions
of gendered parental difference, it might be a better idea to de-emphasize
notions of gendered/ sexual difference in order to liberate fatherhood
programs from the dilemmas of masculinizing domesticity while domesticating
masculinity.
It
remains to be seen in what ways the lives of children, mothers and
fathers will be impacted by the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement.
Fatherhood responsibility programs have probably been helpful to
many men who deal with issues around child support, unemployment,
divorce, parenting skills and relationships. Heterosexual mothers
may possibly get more help from the social and/ or biological fathers
of their children, but this might be conditioned by which burdens
and obligations their husbands or boyfriends find "manly"
enough to assume considering the ways that the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement seeks to re-gender parenthood. As I have demonstrated above,
the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement re-genders parenthood by
using heterosexuality, sport and religion as masculinizing metaphors
and practices in fatherhood programs. Importantly, these "masculine"
arenas have different histories and connotations to asymmetrically
positioned men.
Issues
around marriage crystallize tensions between diverging constituencies
of men and threaten to divide the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement.
This is where the pro-marriage and fragile families wings strongly
disagree while simultaneously sharing similar, sometimes contradictory,
principles. Many pro-marriage representatives come out of a tradition
that defends the institution of marriage and the "superiority"
of the nuclear family in the face of changing patterns of family
formation and perceived feminist and liberal "attacks"
on "the family" (Popenoe 1988, 1996, Blankenhorn 1995,
Whitehead 1993). In contrast, most fragile families representatives,
who draw upon civil rights traditions and deal with poor and unmarried
parents, think that marriage is a good thing but point out that
it does not guarantee "positive child outcomes." Their
priority is to work with a range of socio-economic and structural
problems for families and communities and in turn increase the "marriageability"
of low-income, poor and minority men.
Since
the mid-1990s, partly due to the efforts of marriage proponents
within the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, marriage has
become a main priority in U.S. national policy. In response, groups
traditionally denied the legal, economic and social benefits of
marriage are protesting recent governmental shift towards a focus
on marriage promotion. For example, feminist organizations and civil
rights groups have objected that marriage centered messages on fatherhood
will further dismount governmental assistance for poor, low income
and unmarried parents. The National Organization for Women (NOW)
strongly opposed the Father's Count Act of 1999, which was heavily
influenced by the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement. NOW labels
the Father's Count Act as "dangerous legislation" and
claims that it will undermine support for custodial parents, which
in most cases are women. NOW also warns that the act, being centered
on promoting marriage as key to fatherhood responsibility, might
endanger the financial possibilities for women to opt out of bad
marriages and indirectly result in an increase of domestic violence
rates (Rhodes 2000). In addition, NOW claims that the Fathers Count
act may benefit father's rights groups seeking increased control
over property, ex-wives and children, undermining mothers' legal
rights and protection in terms of custody, visitation and financial
assistance (Conolly 1999).
Tellingly,
gay and lesbian families have been excluded from the fatherhood
and marriage discussion so far. The Fatherhood Responsibility Movement
seeks to avoid addressing non-heterosexual families whatsoever.
Despite its focus on male heterosexuality, the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement denies the fact that gendered and sexual politics are mutually
reinforcing and inseparable within fatherhood and marriage politics
(Gavanas 2003). Representatives within the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement tend to deny that their politics has anything to do with
sexuality. While representatives do not position themselves as heterosexuals,
they implicitly refer to heterosexuals when talking about families
and parents. Moreover, marriage proponents blatantly promote the
supremacy of heterosexual marriage above all other family forms,
including heterosexual cohabitation, while seeking to re-introduce
moral, economic and legal incentives that discourage non-heteronormative
family forms. Marriage proponents rarely mention lesbian and gay
family forms other than under the rubric of "alternative lifestyles"
that should be discouraged. This way, they are structuring a silence
that denies any legitimacy for these families whatsoever.
In
the Fatherhood Responsibility Movement, the promotion of male family
involvement coexists with fears for the perceived "sissifying" and
feminizing connotations of male domesticity. Early 20th
century authors feared that women's suffrage might turn men into
effeminate housewives while women gained more political and economic
power. Simultaneously, contemporary proponents for responsible fatherhood
seek to steer clear of becoming "Mr Moms," while renegotiating
masculine domains. Aa long as fatherhood politics is based on the
exclusion of alternative masculinities, as well as binary differentiation
from notions of femininity, it will remain caught up in the dilemmas
of masculinization. Moreover, as federal fatherhood politics shifts
into an emphasis on marriage promotion, the Fatherhood Responsibility
Movement may end up disbanding itself as fragile families and pro-marriage
diverge over the competing perspectives of men in relation to marriage.
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