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Coping with homesickness

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"" What can you do to help yourself?
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It is really important to realise that you are not the only one feeling homesick and that it doesn't in any way mean you are inadequate. Suddenly, you find that, instead of being a central person in a small unit with plenty of peripheral activities and friends, you have become an anonymous member of a five thousand plus community where you know no-one. Understandably you feel shaken and lonely and you long for the secure and the familiar. Sometimes the emotions are completely overwhelming.  
What can you do to help yourself?

"" Most importantly: acknowledge your feelings and accept them. Believe that they will pass. They almost always do.
"" Decide whether the best policy for you is to have frequent contact with home (because contact makes you feel better), or little contact (because contact makes you feel worse).
"" Think carefully about whether or not to go home at weekends (if this is possible). Some students find it helps to ease the transition; others find the constant readjustment makes them feel worse.
"" Make a real effort to join societies/activities and to make at least one or two friends. This might feel very difficult, but the more you feel part of campus life, the less homesick you will feel.
"" Familiarise yourself with the Student Union. Apart from all that it offers it is an excellent way to meet people in the early days before lectures and social events are really underway. Take a book and sit in a corner and read if you are afraid of seeming conspicious.
"" Try to establish a routine as soon as possible. The fuller your days are, the less time you will have to feel homesick or lonely.
"" Volunteer to help with something - there are plenty of groups looking for volunteers. 'Student Action' in the Student Union will put you in touch with them if you tell them you are looking for ways to get involved.
"" Sometimes it helps to share feelings of homesickness. Think about talking to the Welfare Officer at the SU or contacting one of the University Counsellors. Sharing these feelings may take you over the worst period.
Adapted from material produced by Royal Holloway College, the University of London

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